If someone asks me what makes me happy, I can probably recollect only a couple of things that really make me feel like I’m on top of the world. But till date, I have never really sat down and listed them. This prompt gave me an opportunity to take a break from the usual routine and reflect instead. I started remembering moments, people and things that made me happy. So here’s my most precious thirty –
- The three men in my life –
My toddler, my husband and my father bring out the best in me. I am the happiest when I am around them. Spending time with my father, having a heartfelt conversation with my husband and cuddling my toddler always bring a smile to my face. Also, the story time that I have with my toddler before he sleeps every night last is our moment of togetherness and bonding.
- Friends –
I have a handful of friends but I am grateful for their presence in my life. Conversations with them really lift up my spirits.
- Writing –
I quit my job as a Banker to chase my passion for writing last year. And till date, I consider this to be the best decision of my life. When I write, I am the happiest.
- The tag of a published author –
This year in the month of May, I published my debut novella ‘Deal of Death’ on the Blogchatter platform. Until then I was a blogger but this opportunity made me an author. While I am still giving it finishing touches before putting it up on Amazon, I will always consider the moment of transitioning into a published author as one of the happiest ones of my life.
- Rains –
I love the rainy season, especially if I have the option to stay indoors. The smell of the earth after rains is probably one of my most favorite ones.
- Books –
Purchasing and reading them, especially thrillers gives me a high. I am still orthodox in the way I read my books. I prefer to hold them while reading instead of the e-book version. Also, the smell of a new book is beautiful.
- Comics –
Recently I completed the collection of the full set of Tintin, Asterix, Bengali comic sets like Bantul, Handa-Bhonda and Nonte-Fonte. It has been one of the happiest moments of my life and reading them is another level of joy altogether.
- My black cup –
My Dad bought me a black coffee cup when I left home for the first time in 1999 for higher studies. Over the past sixteen years that I spent studying or working in various cities, this cup has been my constant companion so much so that I call it my family. Next year, it will be two decades of togetherness for us and this is one of my most cherished possessions. Having a cup of coffee in my favorite black cup is a moment of joy for me every day.
- Coffee –
I doubt if I could have survived half the incidents of life if I didn’t have my milky-sugary cup of strong coffee to keep me going. Coffee is my poison.
- Delicious food –
A plate of well-cooked, delicious dish can lighten up my mood. Epecially, biriyani is bae. I need to specify that this has to be served with potato.
- Music –
My taste in music has evolved at every phase in life. But time and again, my favorite musicians have managed to have a calming effect on me. Till date, I sleep only after listening to one song at least.
- Movies & Web series –
Though the number of movies I watch at a theatre has drastically reduced now, I still enjoy catching them over TV or web. And I love web series, especially those in the thriller, romantic or comedy genre. The fact that they have a finite life period makes me happy.
- Stand up comedy shows –
I enjoy them both on YouTube and live. I have been watching a lot of Indian stand up comedy lately and I must say that they are great.
- Letters –
During those sixteen years that I stayed away from home, I used to write letters to my parents for quite a while. I wrote letters to my close friends as well. This was before mobile phones took over our lives and message became the preferred choice. I have preserved all the letters that I received from my friends and family. Reading them makes me happy. After my son was born, I started writing letters once again. I generally post them on my blog and also send a copy to his e-mail id. When he is old enough to read and comprehend them, I intend to give him the password of the mail so that he can understand all those words that his mother wanted to convey to him.
- Old pictures full of memories –
I have a huge fascination towards collecting photographs. They make me nostalgic and happy. The ones of my late mother undoubtedly are a precious lot.
- Travel –
I used to be an avid traveler before motherhood turned me into a planned one. But this is one thing that can always make me happy because I love exploring places.
- Photography –
I discovered my love for clicking photos only recently. I still use my mobile phone for this purpose but I am trying to learn the craft.
- Hill stations –
Darjeeling was the first hill station I ever visited as a toddler. I have traveled far and wide since then but this city never fails to amaze me. I have always been the happiest whenever the destination has been a hill station.
- Giving back to the society –
In my limited way, I try to give a voice to issues that need to be written about. I make a conscious effort to help out those who might not be so privileged. The happiness I get from such work is long-lasting.
- Love –
The feeling of being loved is probably the best booster for happiness.
- Surprises –
It is a little difficult to give me a surprise because I have this habit of poking my nose in anything that is supposed to remain a secret. But, whenever someone has managed to pull it off, the grin on my face has stayed on for a really long time.
- Motherhood –
The first time that I held my son, I cried my heart out. The happiness of seeing a piece of my heart in my arms will probably stay unparalleled.
- Chocolates –
I love dark chocolates. A bar of Bournville or Amul dark chocolate has never failed to bring a smile to my face.
- Flowers –
I love fresh flowers, especially orchids. They bring a beautiful fragrance and positivity to any place.
- Handmade notebooks –
I have such a huge collection that it could surprise most of the people. Yet I feel like I could still do with some more. Since I have this habit of writing down ideas and thoughts in the notebook, they also hold a lot of memories of the past.
- Finding money in the most unlikely of places –
Whenever I find money in the most unexpected place like inside an old bag, in the pocket of jeans or in the drawer chest, it leads to an insurmountable amount of joy.
- Sleep –
I am going to sound a little crazy here but at one point of time, the only way I survived through a grilling week was by dreaming about the sleep that I could get over the weekend. Every weekend I would wake up only at noon and go to sleep in the wee hours of the morning. I still sleep in the wee hours of the morning because of my writing schedule but with a toddler, sleeping late even for a day is delusional.
- Practicing what I preach –
I write on a lot of social causes like the need for quashing gender stereotypes. In my house, I try to practice what I write about. And every small feat makes me happy.
- Making someone else happy –
There’s so much happiness in bringing a smile to someone else’s face that this feeling lingers on for a very long period. Any small act or gesture in spreading happiness is appreciable.
- Me-time –
This has become a luxury item now but whenever possible, I try to squeeze in a little time for myself to recharge my spirits and fill myself with happiness. On this day away from the regular routine of life, I love to spend my time sipping coffee while gazing at the rains outside. I could read or write intermittently as I continue to relax. Whenever I get a chance for this me-time, it makes me wonderfully happy.
At a certain point of time, if I was told to list down my top reasons for happiness, it would have included the month-end salary credits, my Senior Branch Head profile, my personal success stories at my Banking job along with the national and international paid vacations that I cherished. I feel that they are also good enough reasons to make one happy. But my life has taken a turn towards becoming more empathetic and compassionate after becoming a solopreneur when I chose writing as a profession. My priorities changed when I lost my mother seven years back which led to a paradigm shift in the list of items that made me happy. The only constant factor in my happiness has been spending quality time with my family and making them happy.
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